谁是你的後台朋友？

我台湾的一位朋友寄了以下的的文章，我觉得蛮有意义的。這是一篇很好的文章 –谁是你的後台朋友？

你有沒有一個屬於自己的『後台朋友』?

因為社會化深了，所以我们所表現出來的都是想要別人羨慕的一面，不好的都只想沉默或暗自憂傷，夜深人靜時真的需要好好想想，不論是最親密的配偶也好、知心朋友也罷！你有沒有一個屬於自己的『後台朋友』?

莎士比亞說：「人生如舞台。」人生的舞台，有前台，也有後台。前台，是粉墨登場的場所，費盡心思，化好了妝，穿好了衣服，準備好了台詞，端好了架式，調勻了呼吸，一步步踱出去，使出渾身解數；該唱的，唱得五音不亂；該說的，說得字正腔圓；該演的，演得淋漓盡致；於是博得滿堂彩，名利雙收，然後躊躇滿志而回。然而，當他回到後台，脫下戲服，卸下妝彩，露出疲累而飢黃的臉部，後台有沒有一個朋友在等他，和他說一句真心話，道一聲辛苦了，或默默交換一個眼色，這個眼色，也許比前台的滿堂彩要受用。

後台的朋友，是心靈的休息地。在他面前，不必化妝，不必戴假面具，不必穿戲服，不必做表情，不必端架子，可以說真心話，可以說洩氣話，可以說沒出息的話，可以讓他知道你很脆弱、很懦弱、很害怕。每次要走出前台時都很緊張、很厭惡，因為你確知後台朋友只會安慰你，不會恥笑你，不會奚落你。況且，在他面前你早已沒什麼形象可言了，也樂得繼續沒形象下去。人生有一個地方，有一個人，在這人面前，可以不必有出息，可以不必有形象，可以暴露弱點，可以全身都是弱點，這是很大的解放。有此解放，人乃可以在解放一陣子之後，重拾勇氣，重披戲服再次化妝，端起架子，走到前台去扮演該扮演的角色，做一個人模人樣的人物，博得世俗的讚美，獲得功成名就的利益。

話雖如此，後台朋友並非任何人隨處可以找到。親如夫婦，往往還不能成為「休息地」，這可視為人的弱點不堪?可見人無論生死，都很難找到「後台朋友」，因為他太珍貴了。那你呢？有沒有這樣的一位「後台朋友」？如果有，請好好珍惜。用心體會，用愛感動。

当我看完了以上的文章，我自己所谓的『後台朋友』应该是"自己"吧！没有所谓的前台与後台，只要做最真实地自己，你就有永远的心靈休息地。在任何人的面前都不必戴面具，不必穿戲服，可以說真心話，可以呈现自己的脆弱，勇气，喜悦，挑战。。。。谁是圣人，会没有情绪，最重要是多快充满力量。你同意吗？

Four Steps to Intention

Activating your power of intention is a process of connecting with your natural self and letting go of total ego identification. The process takes place in four stages:

1) Discipline is the first stage. Learning a new task requires training your body to perform as your thoughts desire. So, eliminating ego identification doesn’t mean disconnecting from your relationship with your body, but rather, training your body to activate those desires. You do that with practice, exercise, nontoxic habits, healthy foods, and so on.

2) Wisdom is the second stage. Wisdom combined with discipline fosters your ability to focus and be patient as you harmonize your thoughts, your intellect and your feelings with the work of your body. We send children off to school telling them: Be disciplined and Use your head, and call this education, but it falls short of mastery.

3) Love is the third stage. After disciplining the body with wisdom, and intellectually studying a task, this process of mastery involves loving what you do and doing what you love. In the world of sales, I call it falling in love with what you’re offering, and then selling your love or enthusiasm to potential customers.

4) Surrender is the fourth stage. This is the place of intention. This is where you body and your minds aren’t running the show and you move into intent. “In the universe there is an immeasurable, indescribable force which shamans call intent, and absolutely everything that exists in the entire cosmos is attached to intent by a connecting link,” is the way Carlos Castaneda describes it. You relax, grab the trolley strap, and allow yourself to be carried by the same power that turns acorns into trees, blossoms into apples, and microscopic dots into humans. So grab that trolley strap and create your own unique connecting link. Absolutely everything in the entire cosmos includes you and your disciplined, wise, loving self, and all of your thoughts and feelings. When you surrender, you lighten up and can consult with your infinite soul. Then the power of intention becomes available to take you wherever you feel destined to go.

All of this talk of intention and surrender may cause you to question where your free will fits in. You might be inclined to conclude that free will is nonexistent or that your become whatever you program dictates. So, let’s take a look at your will and how it fits into this new view of intention. As you read the next two sections, please keep an open mind, even if what you read conflicts with what you’re believed all your life!